Depression is a happening that many people would love to see an end to when they experience it. In this invitation, healing depression is really an invitation to meet what is happening in the moments that you are aware of that happening.
A very tricky part of dealing with depression is that it has become a ‘something’ to get rid of to fix, rather than a way that a person might feel in a moment. Seeing this as a ‘something’ tends to make it much bigger than it actually is in any moment – makes it look like it is happening in more than a moment, and then that gets magnified and confirmed into more of a ‘something’ to get rid of and people react to it.
The reaction is usually an attempt to get away from feeling depressed; looking for something to divert oneself from what is actually occurring, to distract yourself or override it by doing something. Sometimes this can alleviate the feeling for awhile, as you divert yourself away from what you are feeling. However, this does not address the energy itself and so it will show up again and again and may even intensify. This is often seen as people get more and more depressed as they medicate themselves to not feel it or attempt to ‘be happy’ and do uplifting things to get rid of feeling depressed, and nothing ‘works’, of course, because the person is attempting to get away from themselves.
Depression is a happening that has occurred in my own life. After attempting suicide when I was 15 and finding out from that attempt that I did, in fact, want to live, whenever I felt depressed after that, the idea of getting rid of myself to stop the feeling just wasn’t an option for me. If such thoughts would present themselves to me, I couldn’t take them seriously so I decided to find another way to respond when depression showed up.
When you can diagnose yourself and say: ‘I feel depressed’, instead of looking for some way to get away from feeling that way,
1. stop, sit down and close your eyes.
2. breathe deeply for a few breaths.
3. look inside of yourself to see where energy is held down – for where you feel ‘depressed’ – there will be some area of you where you can feel energy being pressed down, being de-pressed in actuality.
4. continue to breathe, relax your body open and feel the energy that is being depressed, just feel it, do not attempt to change it. Relax open and Be With this happening and see what happens.
This number 4 step can feel enormous. You can support yourself to feel what is happening by remembering that this energy is already ‘in’ you, it is not being created by the space you are giving it, it is already there. This means that you are already ‘able’ to be with this – even if it feels like it will engulf you, you are already with it so go for it. It has been held for you, like in a parcel, or gift, just waiting to be opened….this is the opening to the present, to that gift. Trust yourself to feel what this is that is already with you.
I have worked with many many people over a 20 year span who have experienced depression. People who are very aware of themselves energetically, and those who haven’t been even looking at: “How do I actually feel right now?” or looking at life as anything more than the mundane happenings. No matter how subtly or not subtly they know how to be with themSelves, they are always are able to find where energy feels depressed inside if they have said: ‘I feel depressed’. This is 100% of the people who I have coached to look to see and feel the energy that is being depressed in the moment, they find the energy. You can too.
‘You’ are waiting for ‘you’ in the form of these energies that are being pressed down inside. Welcome to more of yourSelf, receiving the gift of the moment.
‘You’ are waiting for ‘you’ in the form of these energies that are being pressed down inside. Welcome to more of yourSelf, receiving the gift of the moment.